Take a Lesson in Manners from The Bachelor Prince Lorenzo

Take a Lesson in Manners from The Bachelor Prince Lorenzo by Roxanne McDonald

Many of the women on the Bachelor could learn some modern etiquette just by watching Lorenzo. After all, when in Rome….

Relationship guru Terry Gorsky must be champing at his lecture bit over episode 3 of the Bachelor, especially when, after he has admonished first daters about not telling/revealing all about one’s self on the first date and then seeing how Mz. Erica shares with the prince waaaay too soon how coo-coo she really is.

In fact, Lorenzo figures out that there are “two Erica’s” and judicioudly suggests to the cameras how he really doesn’t know them both.

First, this (polite but apt move of getting rid of that freak) is a huge relief for those of us who have watched so many duplicitous bitches get away with abusing their roommates behind the scenes then acting all wonderful and seducing the unaware bachelor with

that other Janus face she saves for the public and for “on” [the air] times. But moreover, how the prince handles the let down gives us (or the women, if they’re paying attention) some important lessons on how to act when in the company of others—especially when those others are potential mates.

Here are just a few hints at modeling the prince’s mannerisms–lessons on how to act when courting a potential mate:

Be a gracious listener. When the girls get an opera-singing lesson, though they are for the most part hideous, Lorenzo is attentive and kind, despite how obnoxious half of the women sound. This might recall for some of us the first night, when hotel concierge Andrea steps out on the balcony overlooking the courtyard and belts out a lovely rendition of something operatic. The women sitting with Lorenzo insist on chattering away on top of the vocals he is trying to hear. This leads us to the next lesson….

Don’t interrupt. We appreciate that these women have to trog for attention and will step up their game by snatching the man away from a conversation he is interested in, but, for example, when there is a heads-up rose opportunity between two girls and your opponent is intimately involved in a chat, you don’t come out on the balcony in your too-short nightwear, interrupt their flow, and demand they get on with it (the rose offering moment).

Well, Erica does, and gets her just reward for the impudence—and for all the other nutcase behavior she revealed previously.

Show appreciation.

When Jami, who wins the opera performance challenge (for best stage presence, not necessarily for best voice), arrives in the foyer or salon or whatever, she is dressed in the million-dollar jewels and a vibrant red strapless dress. Lorenzo shows his appreciation by making small claps and showing joy. It’s that simple. No need to be pissy and find fault with the special benefits each affair brings, courtesy the show and the prince. I mean, jeez, could ya at least pretend to be grateful?

Ask permission to do something potentially invasive. When he is with Lisa (whom we all know he is majorly attracted to), Lorenzo asks permission to kiss her. Now lots of ink has been spilled over whether this makes the romance and seduction too stilted and how this talking through everything is a begrudged way of dating now (thanks to the date rapists and the subsequent date speech codes). But if you are as polite and well-mannered as the prince, this small question can be part of a big turn-on. “Can I kiss you?” “Can I touch you here?” “How about here?” “Do you like this?” “How about this?” Just the feel of the respect adds to the sensuality and slow seduction process, too.

And speaking of respect, how about having some…Erica? Respect the other when he is generous with compliments and gentle as possible in his rejection. Don’t berate. Don’t contradict. And don’t tell him (or her) he (she) has just made a “big mistake” or that it is his/her loss, etc. You’re not that great. He will not be sorry (but, we all suspect, glad and relieved) you are gone. And, as another relationship expert, Greg Behrendt will likely tell you (more bluntly than the prince would), “He is just not that into you.”

So, for God’s sake, even if you are so clueless that you never take any of the lessons of etiquette to heart, right now, as you screech like Sybil out the limo window, as you harangue and bemoan and retort and refute, stop, please, please stop whining. Be a decent loser. Go home to your maids, and re-think your decisions and attitudes and ways.

Please.

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